When you take the time to stay caught up on your tidying, you can easily say 'Yes' when fun opportunities come along. Because there is not huge pile of things you 'should' be doing at home, you can go out and enjoy a guilt-free evening.
When we look around at our clutter, we're not just looking at our stuff.
Just think what it would be like to eliminate that daily dose of Ugh...with a few days of decision-making effort.
Change something about the dynamic so that the dynamic can change.